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While it can be challenging to deal with the moods and sometimes less than stellar behaviour of teens, parents and stepparents must try to keep their own emotions in check as they guide their teenagers toward adulthood. Speak to hubby and try to sort the matter out with him. The issue is that I've sorted all the rebellion problems out with her and now I have met someone who has two teenage daughters who are giving me the same hell. She was living with her mother until 3 years ago when he got custody. She’s very disrespectful and sometimes I think I am going to have to call the police on her. I’m trying to find a self-help book for my 46 yr old son to read, but can’t find anything that might address his truly special set of problems.
Calm, consistent discipline, reasonable rules, and a willingness to listen can all help teenagers and their parents to get through the turbulent teen years with as little drama as possible. My husband drives trucks and is gone for 3 weeks at a time. He has a very sensitive, depressed,16 yr old son who has been through so much.
The teen’s natural parent should take the lead role in matters of discipline, but they need to make it clear to their children of all ages, teens included, that the stepparent is to be recognised as an equal authority figure.
Stepparents find that it is easier to deal with their teenage stepchildren if the teens have been raised to expect that their ability to enjoy certain freedoms is reliant on their willingness to be respectful and cooperative.
Unfortunately, not all children have been taught appropriate self control, and reining in a teenager who has been allowed to misbehave without worry about the consequences can be a daunting task.
Even the most obedient children are likely to go against their parents’ rules once puberty hits, but they must be made to understand that the rules are to be obeyed, even when they disagree with them.
It can be difficult for parents and stepparents to work together, though, but the resulting differences of rules at each house can end up working against all of the parents’ hopes to raise a teenager who is well-behaved and self controlled.
I don’t think they even go anymore The hatred grew between the evil step mother & my precious grandson, until finally 1–1/2 yrs ago after returning home after the summer with his mother in a different state; she started verbally bullying as usual, and for the 1st time ever he broke loose and screamed all the hateful things he had ever wanted to say for the past 5 years. He is going to a therapist today and seems committed to addressing these issues and also says he is going to insist his boys go as well after he has had a few sessions.
As seasoned parents will tell you, it can be hard to deal with a teenager, but teenage stepchildren can be especially challenging.
No longer children, yet not quite adults, teens often test their limits by rebelling, disregarding house rules, and refusing to recognise stepparents as authority figures.
House rules should be discussed and agreed upon by both parents in the household so that the kids don’t get into the habit of playing one parent against the other.
Ideally, natural parents should take the lead role in enforcing the rules, but stepparents need to be obeyed, too.