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She had achieved national recognition for her work in school systems.However, she was still angry, bitter, and resentful toward her ex.
Take Aways: So what would Kate tell us now if she could? All efforts to start new relationships had fizzled, and the topic of relationships was considered “off limits.” Then, at 53, she died from cancer, a professional success but an emotional cripple.Her effort to adjust to life after divorce had not worked. The Most Common Mistake: Picking the Wrong Transition Partner Kate made the common, but disastrous, mistake of picking the wrong Transition Partner. By default, her best friend, Jill, became her de facto TP. Jill joined in on the “Bill bashing” which helped Kate relive, rather relieve, the pain. Kate’s life would have been vastly different had she chosen a Transition Partner who had these five critical qualifications. Their only concern is your happiness regardless of what form the arrangement may ultimately take.I call this person a “Transition Partner” or “TP.” If you hold the emotional reactions in, they fester and grow.If you disclose them to a well-meaning, but unhelpful, friend, they gather energy and grow even more.But no matter how much I tried to stay true to my belief that anything is possible in love, there was no escaping that I am three years out of my marriage while he is a mere three weeks.This guy's giddy openness about starting life anew reminded me of just how I felt at that juncture.The rebounder is at risk of attaching too quickly to the wrong person, and those dating a rebounder are subject to wandering into the line of fire of scatter-shot devotion. Even more than an ending love, all that pain and torment was really about contending with unresolved heartbreak from my divorce.I've written exhaustively about my own post-marriage rebound with a man who was also recently divorced. But I needed to go through that rebound and the subsequent pain.There has been plenty written on the perils of the rebound.The old maxim suggests that the recently heart-broken is too angry/vulnerable/hurt to be truly open to a new love. Please, ow ow owie ouchie ow I can't take any more!!!