How long have we been dating
Their girlfriends were all 3-4 years older, and they were feeling far more biological pressure than I suspect that you do. Thus, the only leverage you have is to walk away from him and see if he follows. These are just things that you might do to avoid breaking up, but they don’t ensure that you’ll be together forever. You talk about your boyfriend’s “professional priorities” that prevent him from proposing. My best friend is getting married this week even though he’s quitting his safe job as a lawyer to start his own company. Hopefully by dating, she -and eventually he- will see her real values.
And yet, despite their ticking clocks, they hung in there patiently, just like you… That’s when they decided to leave if they didn’t get a ring. At the 3-year mark, there’s literally no new information that your boyfriend is trying to gather about you. If you want to be married, it’s time for him to step up and marry you. I assure you, if your guy wanted to marry you, it would happen.
By being patient and not putting pressure on her boyfriend, she allowed it to develop into a healthy, loving relationship that has a chance of going the distance.
Had she not taken this stance, her boyfriend would have bailed, and she would not have the chance of going the distance.
What you might be experiencing is just that — romance gone comfortable.Cutting him off after a few months because he’s not positive that she’s “the one”? Which is why it’s so comfortable for him to keep things exactly the way they are now. And like you said, it’s all bullshit excuses he’s giving.Or patiently allowing him to fall in love with her, to consider her his best friend, to know that he can’t picture his life without her? I proposed to my wife after 14 months because my girlfriend was 38, we both wanted kids, and I was a dating coach who finally figured out what was important in life. I have three very close friends who were with their girlfriends for 3 years before proposing. The problem is that it’s not comfortable for you to walk this tightrope, investing more and more time with a man who is not ready to commit. This is just moving deck chairs around the Titanic, spinning wheels, making noise. If a man wants to do something and if he’s so into a woman and fear of losing her, he’ll do anything in his might to keep her. I love your column and think you do a great job of answering questions and concerns with sympathy, empathy and insight. I asked if that’s why he doesn’t want to move in—because he’s afraid we’ll break up and it’ll be a pain to move out. We knew a couple who broke up after living together. We discussed moving in together when my lease is up in October, but now I know he’s not ready. I tell him that he can still have that if we’re living together, but he’s still not sure when he’ll be ready. He feels really strongly about living with me and equates it to marriage.He said he’s not worried, that if we move in together, he’s sure we’ll stay together, like it’s a forever thing.I know this all sounds like justification, but he really has made improvements in the past year.Before me, he was in two longer-term relationships, and he said that he’s never had what we have now, that he’s never even considered marriage and kids with anyone else before and that I’m not just his girlfriend, I’m his best friend.He negotiated for her to move in with him, and that’s where they stand. Since then, the duo has been posting super cute Instagram pics of each other and social media is going wild."It's true. Wells is proudly introducing her to all of his friends and is really happy that they connected.