Black men think black women dating white men
If you say “I don’t need a man,” remove it from your vocabulary immediately. Black women have the tenacity, intelligence and dedication to carry themselves and whole families on their backs, but that’s not how it’s supposed to be.
It’s true that some Black women have had to fill the shoes of Black men in cases where the men have been removed from our community due to mass incarceration, where the men have chosen not to fulfill their responsibilities as fathers, or where the woman’s level of financial success has scared away some men based on his insecurity.
However, Black men are twice as likely to marry outside their race than Black women, and there is a unique, community issue of some Black men explicitly not wanting to date Black women at all, which isn’t as common in other races.
Alternatively, have you ever seen a woman with a good man who loves and respects her? Think about the rage you feel living as a Black man in a country that has been and is systematically discriminating against and killing you and your community. If your woman caught you texting three other women after you were just telling her how much you love her and being with her, does that not warrant anger/attitude?You’ll see how quick we are to point out our issues with the other gender, but rarely accept hard truths about our gender or do anything to change them.What if we started thinking of solutions, instead of just the problems?The first step to fixing the problems between Black men and women is for both genders to own up to their faults.Read the comments section of any posts on interracial dating.Many Black men who only date White women typically treat them better because they have assumptions about them and respect them more, and if you show a woman great treatment and respect, she has no problem submitting.These same men dated a few Black women but looked for the negative stereotypes in them, and thus did not respect them, and thus did not get the submission he wanted.Understand that you can’t try to run a man or a relationship, or you will end up just running him away.Doing something your man asks of you does not make you weak or powerless; it means you’re able to follow and compromise, which is something Black men want and need.The problem with this concept is two-fold: Anyone can be angry, even non-Black women. You want respect and to be spoken to like a man, but make sure you’re giving the Black woman that same respect back.However, rooted in a white supremacy structure, White women are always assigned presumed innocence and purity, and it’s that very innocence that has gotten Black men wrongfully imprisoned or killed. Yes, but this comes from being a double minority; it comes from being oppressed not only by White people, but by the only other person you’d hope would understand oppression and not inflict it upon you, but does so anyway based on gender: the Black man. However, if a Black woman does get an attitude with you, ask yourself: Why? If you don’t, don’t expect bad behavior to be met with kind words and non-reaction.