A lesbian dating a
One downside of everyone being on Ok Cupid is everyone will know you are on Ok Cupid.
This is particularly awkward when you click on an appealing profile only to find that profile is someone you know, who knows you, who will know you know they know you’re alone.
There’s no debating reality: lesbians are working with a far smaller potential dating pool than straight women, and (for reasons unknown to me) there are far fewer lesbian geared events than events geared at gay males.
We’re straight up less visible, and dating apps allow us to safely browse through girls WE KNOW like girls.
Unfortunately, form comes at the the price of function.
Profiles are incredibly limited, and searching for matches is limited to flipping through pictures of every Tinder user who shares at least one similar “like” with you on facebook.
Tinder treats LGBTQ users as second class users because it views LGBTQ sexualities as second class sexualities; we are not the norm and therefore not worthy of even the most basic of consideration. In addition to sharing the name of unlikable female television characters everywhere, Brenda struggles with style and utility. I would like to put as much distance between access to my lady-bits and men as possible, even on the internet.
Tinder graciously allows LGBTQ women to sign up for their service, but don’t expect them to treat us as anything other than straight. Virtually nothing offends me, but being treated as if my sexual orientation is irrelevant offends me. First of all, who in God’s name decided “Brenda” would be a good name for a dating application? Underneath a depressing palate of cheap lavender and dreary grey, Brenda does really seem like a sweet, well meaning application. Amenities: Brenda can boast the awesome honor of being the only lesbian dating app in the app store. Other features Brenda boasts include: Experience: One thing I love about Brenda is the girls online.
tool to set “broadcast” so women in your area can see you want to hang out right awayf.
No amount of horrified back clicking can un-visit an unfriendly acquaintance’s Ok Cupid profile. I’ve heard some great success stories from Ok Cupid, while I didn’t find anyone I wanted to date on there, I did meet an adorable new friend.
Tinder Style: With it’s clean layout and modern typography, Tinder is hands down the most aesthetically appealing app.
An app only useful to straight people masquerading as a LGBTQ friendly app offends me. I pity Brenda, I want Brenda take her glasses off and reveal that bangin’ body, but I don’t want to fuck with Brenda. Ok Cupid can feel a little high school what with the “who visited whose profile” but Brenda users are friendly and didn’t hesitate at all to hit me up. Ok Cupid not only has far more lezzers, it has features for days, addictive quizes, in- depth profiles, and an incredibly detailed search criteria.
Tinder might be stylish and based on an essentially good idea (matching via friends of FB friends/similar interests), but this is 2013 and it is not ok to treat gay women like second class users in any context or medium. I see so much potential here, but the site needs a makeover and more filters/amenities to really be a competitor. Furthermore, by allowing LGBTQ women to remain invisible to straight users, Ok Cupid allows you to date online without male harassment.